I often say that staying in the “Sex and the Sippy” mindset is not an 8pm-10pm operation. Have you heard the phrase, “foreplay starts in morning?” In order to feel like sexy time is at all an option after chasing kids and doing endless loads of laundry you’re going to have to put some effort in mammas.
One thing I love to do is send my husband romantic e-cards. What better way to make sure that I’m constantly on his mind? He knows you’re his wife, why not be his girlfriend sometimes? When the flirting stays in tact, sex lives stay protected and fresh.
This is the website I use: http://www.naughtycards.com/home.aspx
Some of them are edgier than others, choose wisely. Some workplaces have monitoring software and *gasp* don’t send anything that he’d have to explain if a co-worker saw his screen. Think cute, romantic, and playful.
One of the reasons Sex and the Sippy exists is because there are way too many people not having sex who should be. There are organizations and religious groups everywhere trying to stop teens from having sex because we know how emotionally and physically disastrous for teens to get down, but what about moms and dads who are practicing unnecessary abstinence?
With the divorce rates as high as they are, regular nookie is more important than ever. Mom, if you still think cleaning the kitchen is more important than hitting the sheets, here are some sad stats from Dr. Phil.com
Sad Stats
Married couples say they have sex an average of 68.5 times a year. That’s slightly more than once a week. — Newsweek
Married people have 6.9 more sexual encounters per year than people who have never been married. — Newsweek
15 to 20 percent of couples have sex no more than 10 times a year, which experts define as a sexless marriage. — Newsweek
20 to 30 percent of men and 30 to 50 percent of women say they have little or no sex drive. — USA Today
25 percent of all Americans (a third of women and a fifth of men) suffer from a condition known as hypoactive sexual desire (HSD), which is defined as a persistent or recurring deficiency or absence of sexual fantasies or thoughts, or a lack of interest in sex or being sexual. — Psychology Today
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/372
Today Sex and the Sippy spoke with Miyoko Fujimori, the author of The Housewife’s Guide to Practical Striptease. When this mom of two isn’t appearing on the Dish Network/Oxygen six nights a week or showing Denise Richards some pole moves on E!’s It’s Complicated, she’s helping moms everywhere remember that they’re more than just spit up wipers, chauffeurs, and playground referees.
“The Housewife’s Guide to Practical Striptease isn’t about nudity or writhing around, it’s about communicating and connecting…helping women jump back on the monkey bars.” -Miyoko
If you haven’t read The Housewife’s Guide to Practical Striptease go out and get it. Today. Right now. Seriously. This easy-read shows that striptease for the everyday mom isn’t about expensive outfits or being someone you’re not, it’s about remembering that moms are women too and being comfortable with one’s femininity. Motherhood has a way of banishing the “sexy” out of moms. Miyoko explains, in words and terms that anyone can understand, that learning a sexy dance for your husband is something fun, special and totally doable.
Keeping your sensuality in tact isn’t something that you work on from 8-10pm. Miyoko explained how moms can make keeping their feminine side in tact a daily mission.
“Even when you’re just walking around…throw your shoulders back, instead of caving in, push your breasts out and stride…When you’re stressed out, instead of reaching for that cookie to make you feel better, brush your hand against your thigh and up your hair, remind yourself that you’re beautiful and loved.”
Feeling like a ragged mom with no time for yourself can be a thing of the past. Miyoko, who is also the Creative Director of Party Gals, has created a resource that even the shyest mom can pull easy ways to end any dry streaks and bring new life to your marriage.
Visit Practical Striptease.com
To me, birth control is more than just an intervention. It means no pregnancy stretch marks, leaky nursing boobs, or three AM feedings…as long as it works. Don’t get me wrong, I loved being a new mom, but with a toddler running around, the idea of having another is the anti-libido.
Rule #1 in getting your groove back: Make sure you’re covered
Whether it’s pills, shots, plastic or the snippity-snip, know what your mode of baby prevention (unless you’re trying to conceive, TTC) is and have it ready.
And yes, mom, it’s your job to remember this. Accept it and move on.
