If you’re really, really serious about increasing your libido, work some light exercise into your routine. I know what you’re thinking: when? Trust me, I’m practical. I know that between making meals, working, and chasing kids around you barely have time to reapply your lipgloss let alone hit the gym for daily pilates.

Make working out part of your everyday routine by working it into what you already do. If you’re a new mom with one baby, get a good jogging stroller and hit the sidewalk when Jr. gets fussy at 4pm everyday (because we all know he does). No one is saying you have to break any records, a brisk walk will whittle your waistline and get your blood pumping.

If you have a gaggle of kids, take them to the park (wear yoga pants, a sports bra and a tank or fleece) and chase after them. Bring a soccer ball and really play with them instead of texting or watching them from the bench.

These little bursts of activity will make you feel more alive and available for *special time*. Promise.

Here is a Mommy-Must Have that I feel very passionate about: a good lotion and body wash. Your nightly shower is key to feeling physically and emotionally available for some naughtiness in the sack. A great quality, natural lotion and body cleanser will help you get there.

When you are scrubbing down with some cheapie, drying soap with a mediocre sent and rubbing thin lotion on yourself, it’s not as easy to feel like a special mermaid goddess of the night fairy princess.

When you’re surrounded by an intoxicating scent in a nice steamy shower and have a creamy lotion to run on your deserving skin afterwards…now that is how you prep for bed.

My reccomendations:

Anything from LUSH- one of my favorite stores. I want to bring a pillow and move in every time I visit a store.

Bath and Body Works- I don’t know how natural they are, but they’re good

Spoiled Mama- high quality, natural products. The Sugar Scrub is amazing and this line is mom-created.

Reader letter:

“Dear Sex & The Sippy,

What do you keep in your nightstand for a quick pick-me-up or evening motivator? By the time I hit the sack I’m wiped out and fresh out of any creative ideas. Help?

Kelly, Mountain View, CA”

Dearest Kelly,

I know how you feel at the end of the day. What I do to make myself feel special enough to have anything to give is keep special treats, gifts, for myself in my nightstand. My current favorite is Chocolate Covered Altoids. Not only do they give me a little boost of minty freshness, I get a super low-calorie chocolate rush as well. And we all know that the way to a mama’s heart is paved in chocolate…

Keep a few tins in your nightstand and when you need to make that transition from pooped mom to available wife, they may just put you over the edge. Have fun!

xoxo SATS

Coco Chanel once said, “A women who doesn’t wear perfume has no future.”

While I don’t hold that line as a supreme truth, I do think Eau de Mama needs to smell nice. You’re a woman not a fisherman. This 4th of July spritz on a little something special to remind yourself of just that. You’ll love how you feel so much you just might do it everyday.

Perfume doesn’t have to be for special occasions. I apply a little in the morning whether I’m going on a playdate or to a meeting and once more right before bed.

My fav scent is Britney Spears’, Fantasy. Homegirl has had her ups and down the last few years but she does know how to put together a beautifully packaged perfume. Well…her business team might have something to do with that.

Look around your bedroom right now. What do you see? C’mon be honest.

Are there sippy cups and wine glasses on your bedside tables? Clean and dirty clothes piled up in the hamper (and on the floor). A couple of Oprah’s literary recommendations lying around? What else? Shopping bags? Receipts (throw those away before the husband sees them)? DVDs? A stiletto and Ugg wasteland?

Now answer this question: who would want to give it up in an environment like that? You may as well be trying to make love in an outlet mall the day after Thanksgiving. It’s too much.  Just like on a Hollywood set, the mood, the feel of the space where the magic is supposed to happens is everything.

Mom. It’s time to get a box of Kleenex, a humongous trash bag and get rid of the stuff your “baby” can’t wear anymore. Despite what you may have seen in the wrong parts of LA, it’s not acceptable for a toddler to wear a onesie like a t-shirt with the little tails that can’t snap anymore flapping in the wind. We’re going to judge you.

I stumbled upon a site yesterday that will have your house de-cluttered and orgasms back before you can say “controlled burn” (which by the way is NOT  good way to get rid of excess goods).

www.handmedowns.com

After all is said and done, I’m all about supporting moms. This website allows moms to save some cash by buying and selling gently used clothes, toys, and strollers. It’s like our own Craigslist without the whole creepy casual encounters/fetish section. I mean, I’m a longtime fan of Craigslist but wouldn’t shop at a Babies ‘R Us that shared retail space with a topless bar. Nothing against breasts. I just don’t think the words “high chair” and “anal beads” should be on the same website.

Back to HandmeDowns.com. Instead of throwing away your baby clothes and letting that Maclaren waste away in your garage, let some local mom take them off of your hands. You’re dressing another baby and creating new space in your home! Tip: If you don’t have time to list clothes individually, sell them in a bundle called a “lot.” Spend the cash you make on candles and massage oil.

One of my favorite parts of the website is that they work with charities like Baby2Baby so that you can donate your goods directly to moms & dads who need a helping hand.

Another one of my favorite parts is that registration takes about 5.7 seconds. Bonus!

Bottom line: save the environment by letting members of your community reuse your stuff, make some money, support a charity, and have more sex.

xox SATS

Sell her stuff. It’s stressing you out.